Publisher's Synopsis
In this book we will look at self-esteem and self-confidence and the difference between these two terminologies. After you have read this book, you should have a much clearer understanding of these two terms and how they can transform your life overall for greater achievements.Self-esteem and self-confidence are frequently used interchangeably when we speak of how we feel about ourselves. These two terms are very similar, but they have different concepts. It is very important to understand these two terms when seeking to improve your overall self-belief or self-worth. In this book we will look at what these two terms are, and dive deeper into ways we can improve our self-esteem which in turn, will build our self-confidence
WHAT CAN WE SAY ABOUT SELF ESTEEM?
Self-esteem is basically how you feel about yourself in general. Self-esteem is developed from life experiences and situations you have encountered that have fashioned the way you view yourself. On the other hand, Self-confidence is how you feel about your capabilities and can transition from situation to situation. An individual might have healthy self-esteem, but his self-confidence could be low as it relates to him being able to master Mathematics as a subject at high school or college. When you love yourself, your self-esteem improves, which makes you more confident. When you are confident in areas of your life, you begin to increase your overall sense of self-esteem. It's possible for you to work on both self-esteem and self-confidence at the same time.Self-esteem, like happiness, is a state of mind. It can make you feel happy, jovial and confident. It can also make you feel worthless, unwanted and weak. Self-esteem can best be compared to a powerful car engine. When the engine is fully tuned, the individual feels confident and raring to go; when the engine needs tuning, the individual feels low and wants to throw in the towel.
Obviously, individuals with low self-esteem cannot be expected to do well in life. They will approach every issue with a lack of confidence even though they may be fully capable of doing a job. That is why self-belief is considered the bedrock of self-esteem. It gives an individual the extra confidence that makes all the difference between an achiever and a loser. So how do you inculcate a sense of self-belief in yourself? You will be making a big mistake if you start seeing yourself as the most important man or woman in your field. This cannot be called self-belief or self-esteem. Instead it is conceit, and as everyone knows conceit is a dangerous quality. It generates false confidence, which often becomes a source of woes.
WHAT CAN WE SAY ABOUT SELF CONFIDENCE?
To be able to achieve a goal you need skills, discipline, determination, capability and self confidence. Self confidence comes from having the right kind of skills and clarity of goals to be achieved. The clearer the goal, the better the focus of mind and self confidence. Nothing great was ever achieved by people who lacked confidence. A capable body and mind will not function to their greatest potential if not backed by self confidence. Self confidence is the pivot on which all the creative and analytical abilities of the mind rest on. Low self confidence can impair the functioning of both the body and mind, resulting in failure. Self confidence is the measure of one's collective ability to march right ahead to achieve a goal.
Self confidence has a way of being visible. You can tell by observing the very manner of a person walking, communicating, working, socializing, as to whether he is confident or not. The very first handshake with a person will tell her level of self confidence. As you read through the Chapters of this book, you will have sufficient information on how to build your self-esteem and build your self-confidence.