Publisher's Synopsis
The purpose of this book is not about the author or what he think is right. It is about the one who needs its content to improve her or his place in his or hers own life. This book is a journey. A journey from confinement in one's own mental prison to freedom and sustainability as an individual in one's own life. This is not an easy journey but still it is filled with personal victories on the way toward recovery and in the end happiness. It is not possible to compare the life before and after, it is simply unfair. The Now is so beautiful! The book is targeted to victims of violence. I was a victim of sexual violence among other things that a person should not experience and the books methodology is developed by these victims in mind. Since sexual violence includes all types and forms of violence then you can take all types and forms of violence into the process that is in the book. I try to drop the prefix sexual in front of abuse and violence. If you have not experienced that type of violence then it is ideal to not read the prefix and put your experience instead. I try to explain the situation within us, as it has appeared to me in my own work and those who have trusted me for their issues. For our families and friends, this book is ideal to get an insight into the status of our mindset, what we are dealing with. The reality is too often that our family members will also be in harm's way as a result of our experience and it is not confined to sexual matters. By simply standing with us then our wonderful families and friends often face psychological and even physical violence. It is not always easy to be around us when we get stuck in our wounds. When we get lost in our consequences then we can be very difficult in any form of a relationship. Professionals can get insights into what we are dealing with inside. Education, understanding and awareness are the key to progress in these issues as in others. The status of the category is as is and we have to work together to deal with all sides of the matters and lift the category to a higher level. I have to been assisting in research projects at the University of Iceland and University of Akureyri and I intend to do everything in my power to help professionals to help us. We need to stand together and work together. We cannot expect the professionals to know how the best ways to help us to recover if they do not get an insight into our inner world. I developed the methodology, which is the book, from the 12-step program and have extensive experience in working with victims of sexual violence. I am going to tell you right now, you will not find any descriptions of violence in this book, nor names. These are just solution-oriented thoughts about dealing with the consequences of sexual violence. To all my wonderful souls, the ones who helped me get started, supported me on the way, you with whom I have gone through deep self-exploration, victims that I have helped go through deep self-exploration, you that I have had deep conversations with as victims, relatives of victims, relatives of offenders, you who have greeted me, filled with love even though I don't know you, you that wanted to tell me something without knowing how, you who have told me "you are my voice" or "I walk beside you" and I don't know your name... Thank you. These words would never have been written without you, and my life would never have been the same. You are my inspiration. I am nothing without you. To the ones that are still in the darkness with your experience, join us. You are our brothers and sisters and you are not alone. It is alright. This is our voice, not just my own but all of ours. No one goes through this journey alone. You just can't. I could not do it and no one I know that has freed himself or herself from this experience could have done it alone. Truth guided by love and kindness conquers all. I have faith in you! Have a nice trip. Additional information: www.ajourneytof
