Publisher's Synopsis
God ordained both salvation and marriage. If you try to get to Heaven your own way, you go to Hell when you die. If you try to do marriage your own way, you can make life Hell on earth.
God loves men and women equally (Gal. 3:28). He created us carefully so that God's Plan of Salvation can give us the fruits of the spirit in this life and prepare us to spend eternity with Him in Heaven in the next life. God's Plan of Marriage helps married couples give the entire family a taste of the joys of Heaven, right here on earth. By the time my wife and I were married in 1971, most of our friends were already divorced. We soon realized that God had given us something precious in our marriage but we could not explain it. We spent the next 40 years trying to explain what God had in mind so others could enjoy the blessing a loving God had always intended for marriage. The Book of James promises wisdom from God if we ask in faith, but it doesn't say how long it will take nor how the information will arrive. We're searched the scriptures, prayed, and passed material to literally thousands of people collecting feedback. This is the result. After reading our chapter on how to be a husband, a Grandmother asked me, "Do I have to read what you said about being a wife?" She had married grandchildren, so I told her, "No, you know what men want." "Let me put it this way," she said. "If my husband treated me as you say, I would not only be willing to give him what he wants, I would not only be glad to give him what he wants, I would be proud and pleased to give him what he wants." We shared drafts of the chapters on being husbands and wives with an engaged couple. When they compared notes, she said, "This is right about what women want, but what it says about men is ridiculous." He was surprised and said, "No, they're right about men, but women can't possibly be the way they say!" Suffice it to say that God made them male and female, with radically different wants and needs, words and deeds. You can't build a sound bridge without detailed knowledge of cement and steel; you can't build a sound marriage without understanding what each party wants most.