Publisher's Synopsis
This is a book written by a guy who's best friend taught him how to date girls better, because she dated girls too. Two best friends with similar interests and similar curiosities. I have led a very colorful life in many ways. As a child I loved the library. I loved to learn. To be smarter. And I learned from people. I watched adults. I learned to compete with adults is how this all started. In my high school years my parents moved to a new job in Tennessee. My Dad was moving near his two brothers and their families. I had three cousins I liked but never got to see, we were all the same basic age: teenager. For the next six years we spent weekends hanging out together. We played ping pong at my house, basketball at theirs but soon we started playing six-person poker (penny ante) with the three adult Dad's and three cousins. Adults versus teenagers. A chance to beat my Dad, his brothers and take their money and really piss them off was too much fun to pass up. Poker can teach you a lot about people, and it did. In six years, I learned a lot about watching and reading small cues, that give away a real feeling/thought. It was eye opening. My cousin John and I became friends, but my best friendship was my cousin Lacey. She was my best friend in many ways. She was in high school and dating guys, and I was in high school dating girls. We were both three sport athletes and had a lot in common. We both had blonde hair and blue eyes and so we were like flip sides of the same coin. We discussed dating. We discussed things. Then we grew older and went to college and were still in proximity to each other and would visit when we could. But where the book came from was all of Lacey and my conversations in the middle of the night. In college we both had jobs in the food industry, she a server and me a cook so we both worked late hours. It was always late when she called at 3AM because she had just gotten off work and was wired. I would answer and we'd talk. It was really the only free time we both knew we had. We burned up the phone lines for hundreds of hours. We laughed at how girls and guys were so similar. One was not better than the other to date. Dating was still hard no matter the sexual orientation. Dating was more than sex. Dating was relating and trusting who you're with. Dating is a complex endeavor. And we all do it poorly. In college she came out to me. It scared her at first because you never know how someone will react. Even people that say they love you. But she didn't change at all to me. She was still my best friend. She was still my trusted confidant. But things had changed for her. She was new to dating women. When she had dated guys, I gave her advice then too. When she had started dating guys, I remember us sitting down at a restaurant drinking Long Island Iced Teas and I tried to tell her how guys really are/were and I did not pull any punches. I laid my cards as a guy on the table. I knew guys. I knew things she should know. I told her things she should look out for. And she advised me on the girls. Told me what they(girls) really meant. Gave me tips. We helped each other. There was no reason for embarrassment. We had trust. We respected each other for our different perspectives. Each of us had a different view of the same situation. We both wanted the other to be successful. And that's where the title originated. I figured, we both date girls. But in her past, she had always gone on dates where the guy took the initiative, took the lead, planned the date mostly. When it is two girls or two guys who should take the lead? That's things we discussed. And she told me how her dates went, and I told her how my dates went and what we discovered is people are the same. Girls are girls. This is what girls taught me about girls. I've had great teachers. I love to learn.I love to learn from everyone.
