Publisher's Synopsis
There's hope for everyone
Half of everyone who gets married also get divorced. Not only is divorce common, it's also a major upheaval in life and difficult to handle for most people. Close to every other divorce ends in conflict. In the heat of conflict, it's difficult to cooperate with each other - especially when it comes to children. Half of all divorced parents experience particularly difficult conflicts, but fortunately they can be helped. Jan Kaa has gathered in this book much of his knowledge and years of experience as a psychologist, authority on children, and former leader of the divorce division at the Center for Family Development. The book gives an overview of what a divorce influences, and what you should try to avoid if you want to do what's best for yourself and your children. It's important to take care of yourself, in order to be a good parent for your children and work together with your co-parent. It's not always easy. But this book gives good advice for how to do so - without falling to pieces. An important point the book makes is that things don't have to be perfect; the children will be okay. By assuming the role of parent, you're doing well enough.
Foreword About Not Falling to Pieces
Chapter 1 Accept Your Emotions and Take Responsibility for Your Actions
Chapter 2 Find a Realistic Level of Cooperation
Chapter 3 Take Care of Yourself
Chapter 4 Create Your New Life
Chapter 5 Be Adequate Parents, Each in Your Own Way
Chapter 6 Give Your Children What They Need
Chapter 7 Get Support From Your Network
Chapter 8 Seek Help When It Becomes Difficult to Cooperate
Chapter 9 Maintain a Good Working Relationship
Chapter 10 When Other Circumstances are at Stake
Afterword There's Hope for Everyone About the author
Jan Kaa Kristensen, Msc in psychology is a certified psychologist and specialist in clinical psychology. For over ten years he has been working with divorced parents and their children, in his private practice as well as in the public sphere as an expert in child psychology. He is the former leader of the divorce division of the Center for Family Development and of the state- and private funded projects, "Parents Together - Separately" and "Shared Children - Whole Children." He also teaches professionals who work with divorced families. He was appointed by the Minister of Social Affairs to be a member of the advisory committee for The National Family Court House in Denmark. See more at jankaa.dk Reviews
I like the book for many reasons. (...) The book gives a strong hand in the back and a number of concrete and manageable steps to take - all towards creating a good enough cooperation.
Psychologist Heidi Agerkvist The book is solidly based in research and describes both from the perspective of children and adults. It provides advice on how to be a good enough parent for your children and what to avoid doing.
Journal for Health Care Professionals "Sundhedsplejersken" I wish I had read this book during my first divorce. It would have helped me a lot.
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