Publisher's Synopsis
Emotionally immature (EI) parents are both frustrating and demoralizing. It's hard to love an emotionally blocked parent who expects honor and special treatment but tries to control and dismiss you at the same time.
A relationship with an EI parent is characterized by not getting your emotional needs met. They have little interest in experiencing emotional intimacy in which two people come to know and understand each other at a deep level. This mutual sharing of deepest feelings creates a satisfying, deep bond that makes the participants precious to each other, but this is not something EI parents feel comfortable doing.
Sometimes you glimpse a fleeting desire in them for real connection, and this keeps you reaching out to them. Unfortunately, the more you reach out, the further they recede, wary of real intimacy. It's like being in a dance with someone who is moving away from you in perfect synchrony to your efforts to get close. Their demands for attention, coupled with wariness about intimacy, create a push-me, pull-me relationship that leaves you unsatisfied and emotionally lonely. You care about your parent, but you can't get close enough to have a real relationship.
Topics that you will be reading through the book:
- THE PARENTAL IMMATURE
- PERSONALITY DISORDER IN PARENT
- WHAT IS EMOTIONAL ABUSE?
- EFFECTS ON CHILDREN
- DEPRESSION IN CHILDHOOD
- IDEAS TO HELP A DEPRESSED CHILD FEEL BETTER
