Publisher's Synopsis
"If you leave, I will die!", "How can you be so selfish?",
"After what I did for you..." All of these are painfully familiar to most of us formulations of emotional blackmail - a powerful method of manipulation, which is often resorted to by people close to us. Bud Brown, the author of many world best-selling books in psychology, analyzes the nature of this phenomenon with his usual insight. And then he offers a step-by-step method for getting out of the vicious circle of emotional blackmail and returning the relationship to a healthy track.In this fascinating book you will find: types of blackmailers, victim pressure lovers blackmail, examples from real life, proven technique for restoring healthy relationships.I realize that the word "blackmail" immediately conjures up an ominous image of crime, horror, and extortion in the mind. Of course, it is difficult to think of a husband, parents, boss, relatives or children as criminals. However, I came to the conclusion that blackmail is the only term that accurately describes what is happening. However, the very harshness of the word will help to cast aside the confusion and misunderstandings that are present in many respects, and this in turn will lead us to clarity. Let me assure you that emotional blackmail in a close relationship does not mean it is doomed to destruction. It just makes it clear that we need to honestly acknowledge and correct the behavior that hurts us, putting a more solid foundation under this relationship. Blackmailer may demand money from us; otherwise he threatens to use some information to destroy our reputation. The emotional blackmailer knows how much we value relationships with him. He sees our weaknesses and hidden secrets. And no matter how much he loves us, the emotional blackmailer uses this knowledge to get what he wants. You enter into a game with a blackmailer, the rules of which are determined only by him.