Publisher's Synopsis
The birthing of this book started several years ago when I was in my hometown thinking of all the reasons why my life turned out the way it did. I remember as if it were yesterday. I had just brought my children to my mom's for what we called summer vacation, but in reality, it was because my beautiful, most precious wife was struggling immensely with her drug addiction, and to try to keep my babies in a stable stress free environment, we went to Omi's. It got to the point that going to my mom's was an indicator that the kids' mom was struggling again, and the summer vacation slowly faded into mom in jail again and dad needs help watching us while he's at work. It wasn't until we lost everything that I remember sitting down and thinking-why-why am I going through all this chaos over and over and over again? I'm the father of six amazing and beautiful children, the husband of a beautiful wife, and yet I am unable to get the love of my life to stop her addiction even if it is so obviously tearing us apart. I began to think how we got here. I went through all the possible scenarios and circumstances and all the decisions I've made through all the twists and turns in life that got us to this point. It wasn't immediate like a light turning on but more like a slow fading into the light. Regardless of any one else, I began to realize that I was right where I was in life because of all my good and bad decision-making, and it was then that I said to myself that enough is enough and my reason why I finally changed course and started new and over was for a brighter future for myself and my six little angels.
This book is a part of me in a most sincere way. I've read and studied a lot of codependent books all of which are very good and helpful, but I wanted to write a letter of hope if you would, to a much larger group. In short, if you don't see yourself in a codependent relationship, then truth be told, you're not going to get a book about codependency. This book was specifically designed to reach beyond that barrier and to let the reader know and understand that they have complete control over their life's circumstance. It's all behind our personal reason-why that ultimately becomes the foundation for our choices in life. My hope and prayer is that this book helps you as much as it has helped me.
