Publisher's Synopsis
Healing for the "Mother Wound", this workbook takes you through the chapters of the book, "Let the Healing Begin", giving step by step actions to help bring mother and daughter closer together, to help heal wounds of the past relationship and to maintain a healthy, loving relationship. Although it speaks specifically to women, several men have agreed that it can also speak to the "Father Wound", as the principles can be applied to the "parent-child" relationship.The main targets are 1. Forgiveness of yourself and your daughter/mother; we help the daughter to take a look at her mother as a woman, even before having children, in the chapters "Before She Was Your Mother, She IS a Woman", and "Mom, What Happened to You?", to see the issues, the hardships and misfortune she encountered that shaped her life and contributed to negative decisions, choices and events in her life; when we see mom as a woman rather as "mom", we can appreciate the fact that she has some of the same feelings and issues as her daughters; she needs love, security - she needs to feel good about herself and has some of the same hindrances to her life. Perhaps her dreams were deferred as a result of choices she made or choices that were made for her.... perhaps she was sexually assaulted or abused.... maybe her heart was broken by a deceptive relationship or a betrayal from which she found it difficult to recover. When you see your mom from the standpoint of being a woman just like you, you come to appreciate the accomplishments she's made, you are able to have compassion on the woman who gave you your first breath.In the chapters entitled, "Roadblocks to the Mother Love", we look at several issues that may prevent a mother from loving, or expressing and demonstrating that love to her daughter. We take mother and daughter through steps to build healthy self-esteem, while teaching them how to prevent forwarding the dysfunctions that resulted in the lack of self-worth for mother and daughter. Self-esteem or the lack of it - either will be likely projected on to the next generation if not for an intervention - someone must be enlightened and determined to bring about the change. We offer several tips to be proactive in building your daughter's self-esteem. At the same time, we encourage mom to take steps toward loving herself and realizing her own worth. We encourage mom to work through any regrets and move on from unfortunate choices and mistakes to a healthy and loving relationship with her daughter. It is never too late!We encourage each woman to look back in her family's history to see the patterns - positive and negative - that have repeated through the generations; the positive in order to identify and accentuate the things that have been productive and good for the family. We look at the negative to identify and eradicate dysfunctional practices, such as abuse, unnatural fears, lack of nurturing, neglect, to mention a few. Many of these issues are due to a lack of knowledge and/or understanding, having experienced these negative things and not having experienced the natural love and nurturing from a mother. We take you through a process in the chapter, "You Can't Give What You Don't Have", to help you identify the areas in which your nurturing was deficient and encourage you to become a nurturer, whatever that looks like to you and your daughter. We encourage you that you can have a healthy and loving relationship if you can be teachable - that God will place people in your life to help you recover those things that you did not receive from your mother...because she didn't receive them from her mother....because she didn't receive them from HER mother....This workbook, as a companion to the book, "Let the Healing Begin", is a very effective tool in recovering, restoring and healing to mother/daughter, and even father/son relationships.
