Publisher's Synopsis
In Infidelity in Gay Love Marc Widefield reveals how you can rebuild trust, security, and intimacy in your relationship after infidelity. It offers a journey from overcoming arguments about betrayal to a better, more intimate relationship 2.0! Marc is a renowned gay affirmative therapist with his own practice where he offers psychotherapy, couples therapy, and coaching. He is EFT- couples therapist and the author of this prize-winning book based on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This book has already been published in different languages. It has been a huge hit with the LHBTIQ+ community! It is a comprehensive self-help guide for gay couples based on an evidence-based method.
Cheating or hiding an affair breaks trust. It really gets to the heart of the matter, even in open relationships! Marc offers a non-normative approach and analyses nowadays gay life on factors that might contribute to sex outside the relationship. What counts as cheating is totally unique to each relationship. Usually an affair is the limit. It's all based on the values, agreements, and safety of the relationship. The good news is that there are ways to navigate these issues and find a happy medium. With tips, more exercises, gay case studies, and a step-by-step plan, the author shows how you can have frank, intimate conversations about the hurt feelings and the motives of the infidelity. For those who want to get to the good stuff quickly, it has a highway through the infidelity issues with 10 awesome exercises to do together. He also discusses opening up your relationship with good agreements without losing safety and mutual trust, in case partners like to each other more freedom. This can only be based on mutual trust! That usually needs to be earned first. Marc tells you how.
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Marc offers a thorough review of a wide variety of issues that gay men can experience in relationships. Centring the realities and lived experience of gay men in a relationship book is rare, often we have to interpret and reimagine the work of others. Marc does the work for us in this practical book dealing with a range of relationship issues for gay men. He walks through various processes for repair after events that lead to relationship distress such as going outside the bounds of relational agreements. Weaving in a harm reduction perspective with practical exercises, this book offers a range of opportunities for gay men to further explore and develop their relationships.
Robert Allan, PhD, LMFT, MBACP, Family and Systemic Psychotherapist, UKCP Full Clinical Psychotherapist, ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapy Trainer, Supervisor, and Therapist, Senior Lecturer, University of Roehampton, London.
A 'must read' for men in gay relationships! Marc Weideveld writes openly, honestly and lovingly about sexuality and intimacy between men. - Dr. Ben Ruesink, psychiatrist, psychotherapist and sexologist in an independent gay-affirmative practice.
Marc did it! This is an indispensable book for gay couples, whether they have an open or monogamous relationship. It is also an excellent and valuable book for counselors who work with gay couples. - Barbara Kohnstamm, couples and family therapist and supervisor at ICEEFT (International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)
