Publisher's Synopsis
What makes the book exciting?
The author provides a thorough understanding of why we deceive ourselves and others throughout our lives and how an act of betrayal is like dealing with the grief and loss of a loved one dying? The book will challenge your understanding. How? By asking do you want to improve your relationships by having a greater understanding of how to manage and work through the pain and heartache betrayal brings while providing you with the hope that reconciliation and forgiveness will bring happiness and joy back into your life?
This book purposely designed as a workbook. Each chapter ends with questions inviting you to test your knowledge. The text is highly immersive as it asks you to reflect carefully on your past relationships and your current relationships. Each chapter brings personal insight with a pragmatic but caring wave of hope that draws you back to the book to refresh your understanding of the principles taught. So, the book provides a new experience of self and a different way to look at others while helping you improve your relationships by reminding you life is about risk knowing that people come into our lives for a time and season.
This approach leaves you wanting to reach out to others with your new knowledge of why we act the way we do in our relationships. How? The book shares extensive first-hand experiences from the author's life and drawn from the lives of those he's helped in putting their shattered lives back together after having their trust broken by an act of betrayal. Therefore, the book explores the commonality of life's challenges by examining the types of loss and grief encountered through self-deceit by a child that could not accept their parents had separated and an act of self-deception that could have resulted in death. We visit the false accusation of a child against their parents, who ran away from home. By leaving the family home, it led to social services and the police becoming involved leading to immense emotional and financial strain on their immediate and extended family with difficulties over their business interest. We examine an act of infidelity in marriage and its consequences while meeting the challenges of a change in health that led to childhood dreams shattered. Also, we look at a fraudulent act by a trusted employee and the financial and social ramifications of divorce, and the building of character in youth, etc.
The book's surprisingly candid approach speaks across generations. It connects betrayal to our vanity [Pride] by positioning recovery from betrayal to personal forgiveness and to forgiveness of the protagonist that caused you harm. The author explains the health implications of holding onto our drive for justice and revenge when betrayed. He invites you to move on with your life while showing how stress can cause ill-health through physical and mental decline leading to stunted emotional and spiritual growth if we fail to relaunch our lives into new relationships.
The author encourages the reader to find forgiveness and reconciliation with self and others after having to live through the destruction of a relationship by providing guidelines to improve as the book provides templates to recovery, including a template on how to bring reconciliation to a relationship impacted by betrayal. The book puts the reader in the middle of the action by inviting you to identify with and learn from real-life events shared from people's personal experiences. The book provides you with the right tools to not only cope with betrayal by coming out the other side successfully by being able to entertain new, more fulfilling relationships. By reading the book, and by engaging with the content will improve your relationships by rebuilding trust in yourself and others while improving your communication.