Publisher's Synopsis
Arthur Hill and Oswald Howard are two practicing psychologists with extensive experience in personality psychology. Over the years of our practice, we have compiled the top questions which we frequently hear from our patients.In this book you can find answers to the most pressing questions and our explanations for specific situations.Learn to live in comfort and pleasure with yourself, then your partner will be well next to you.Friendship is an important close relationship, even in adulthood. Each person must have at least two close friends. If you have one friend - this is happiness, two - it's wonderful, and three - you are truly a rich man!As a rule, in relationships (if they are not rigid, not frozen), the value orientations of friends change in turn. This does not mean at all that in this situation one takes the initiative, and the next time takes another. Sometimes one of the friends can take an initiative position for years, then there is a quarrel or a quarrel, a long break, and only then the second friend begins to get involved in the situation, realizing that for him the relationship is important and it is time to take the initiative into his own hands. Some borderline reactions are characteristic of each of us (relatively speaking, any healthy neurotic) - we sometimes react painfully to certain situations, and in difficult periods of life we may even end up in the borderline zone of our psyche organization.The first and most important thing to learn is to monitor your behavior when you get into a merger. Ideally, it is better to have a close friend or psychotherapist who knows you well and pays attention to excessive merging with a partner ("It seems to me that you are too close, you need to move a little away!")
