Publisher's Synopsis
Don't be angry all the time! Sage advice for an Angry Man.
Has uncontrollable rage driven away your children, led to your divorce, and left you alone, filled with remorse? Do you wonder if you will ever cope with your explosive rage, get through your pain, lead a physically healthy, emotionally positive, spiritual life?
Like many middle-aged men who experienced alienation from their children or bitter divorce, Troy Alfeo shows that his personal tragedies could have been avoided if he had seen the patterns of his explosive rage and uncontrollable anger beforehand. He shows how years of such behavior eventually left him totally isolated, alone, and cut off from the ones he loved. He speaks frankly about the violence that he visited upon his loved ones and friends. This a book about anger so destructive that those he loved were forced to stay away from him out of fear. It is also a story about redemption and the attempts to repair these broken relationships. The author provides a road map back to normalcy, some cognitive behavioral therapy, as well as a number of positive steps you can incorporate in your life right now that will help you come to terms with your own inner Angry Man.
The author recognizes the damage one's angry behavior causes to relationships and that it may not be repairable. The author maintains there are tools for dealing with this specific challenge, too, especially estrangement from one's own children. He provides practical, concise guidance on how to deal with this particular problem and notes that if you have suffered from it, the most difficult part of your journey back to normalcy may be that you might not ever see or hear from your children ever again. The author posits, "What are you going to do when that happens?" Troy Alfeo provides a solution that works for him. The author freely admits that although he is still a very Angry Man by temperament, it is now a beast under his control, not controlling him. He has successfully started on the road to anger management and has slowly begun to rekindle lost relationships with his estranged children. Succinct and to the point, Troy Alfeo discusses the following topics:
Life has no "do-overs." If you have screwed up your family relationships, you are stuck with it. Own it and embrace it. Your life will be better for it.
Angry emotions make you stupid. Don't believe it? Read what happened to Troy Alfeo when he interacted with his children under a dark cloud of rage.
Your anger will alienate you from everyone. Put simply, people will not want to be around you, and they may even eventually come around to hate you. You might even get fired from your job. That happened to Troy Alfeo too.
Did you even love your wife? No? Is that why you were angry?
When did the emotional distance between you and your spouse begin? Do you know?
Do your children hate you now? How do you fix and change that?
Why divorce is the worst thing that could ever happen to your children. So avoid it!
Coping strategies, to include developing a life of meaning and finding love again.
Solutions for today that you wished you had known about yesterday.
