Publisher's Synopsis
If you think you have a controlling mother, then I am going to assume that you are not concerned about an aging parent who is leaning on you a little more in their old age. Nor are you in a situation where your mother has developed some illness or is grieving or has some other big recent change and because of the emotional upset she is more demanding.
This woman has always been involved in every aspect of your life. She has no problems telling you what you should do. In fact, she thinks that she knows better than you what you should do and gets upset if you don't follow her advice. Which is not really advice, it's more like instructions, or even orders!
When she is dealing with people outside the family, she seems like a different person. Others think she is marvelous, such a great mother, such a kind and caring person, doing all these things for her children, pleasant, helpful, friendly...
But you know that behind closed doors she is a tyrant. She screams and shouts at you. She calls you names. She makes you feel worthless. Nothing is ever good enough for her. It doesn't matter how hard you try or how well you do, she manages to find fault with something. She always manages to take the wind out of your sails. All you ever wanted was someone to love you and tell you nice things and enjoy your successes, but she manages to twist things around and make it all about herself all the time.
So in this book CONTROLLING MOTHERS, I particularly want to examine the dynamics of the relationship with a controlling mother in order to explain how they manage to establish and maintain such tight control over their children and what can be done about it.
