Publisher's Synopsis
Single women 60+ have different fears than single men of the same age, when it comes to finding themselves now dating and experiencing new relationships. Single men at this age seem more fragile and sensitive. When starting to date at 60+, there are moments of fear that a woman will laugh at their clumsiness, awkwardness or make them feel small, inferior or insecure. Single women dating at this age have more basic concerns. We're more afraid a man will pass gas on us during lovemaking, or forget to put his teeth in before he kisses us in the morning, and totally ruin the course of the evening. A gentle reminder. This is my sole opinion based on personal experience. (smile) Dating after 60. After 60 what? 60 years of children, husbands, careers? 60 years of joy, sorrow, loneliness? A random, happenstance meeting in November 2017, while interviewing French language instructors abroad who could commit to assisting me with online conversational French lessons, prompted me to write this book. I was seeking a virtual pen pal and male French tutor. He, apparently, was seeking a life mate, under the guise of offering French lessons. And he wasn't even French! He's was an ex-pat Hollandais who was fluent in French! To make a short story, shorter, I fell in love with this aforementioned Dutchman a.k.a. French tutor who lives in France. We had a cross-Atlantic relationship. I lived in the U.S.A. He lived in the E.U. It was interesting. And precisely what I needed during this time in my life. Women Dating After 60+. I am in the throws of precisely this moment of life...in real-time. And there are lots of us. Some of us have eased into the dating and relationship game and are thriving. Others of us have not been as successful, and have either given up on trying or opted to no longer remain open to the possibilities. When you suddenly (or not so suddenly) find yourself single and alone in your 60+ years time of life, whether it be by death of a spouse/significant other, or divorce of a spouse/significant other, or perhaps never married/selectively single; it can be unnerving or empowering depending on how you're wired. It's not an easy time. Just the thought of now dating at this juncture of our lives, is enough to make our stomachs churn. At 60+ the frustrations of loving, dating and learning a new human being...a grown, been there, done that, human being, is a monumental challenge. By this age, everyone's locked into his or her own world. The patterns are not easily disrupted or merged. By the time you reach our age, 60+, we have decided how far to the left or to the right we are willing to lean. A small decision now requires an act of Congress, or at a minimum, an informal tribunal. At this point in our lives most of us just want to be fluid with our emotions, intuitive, sincere, creative, and passionate. We want to live a life that is beautiful in its simplicity, with marginal uncertainty and absolutely, no drama; striving daily, for mostly sunshine and blue skies. Dating when you're 60+ is no walk in the park. In our "upper ages" (I love this term), our lovely minds can occasionally get the best of us. Surrounding ourselves with family, friends and partners with good intentions will yield our highest survival rate. And when we choose to put ourselves out there and embrace the idea of romance again, our watermark should be a high one. Not an impossible one. Simply a high one with a little extra nurturing and attention focused on our heart. I wrote this tiny book of warm encouragement for all of my single, 60+, female friends, family and readers who may have accidently or intentionally, put the brakes on romance. Divorced. Widowed. Selectively Single. We are in this exquisitely amazing time of our life together. Embrace it! Young love and life expectations can be blind and impulsive. Seasoned love and life expectations is realistic and wears bifocals. Our life belongs to us...we get to do it the way we want to do it
